Thursday, 6 August 2009

Letter to my 16 year old self

Dear Sherin,

The future is great. There are flying cars everywhere and we live side by side with aliens. Just thought I'd give some advice to you from all my experiences these last few years.

You'll soon go through a make up phase where you'll go mental. Do not cake it on: it is not a pretty sight. I know right now you're scared of make up, but I promise, with a little practice, you'll become an expert. Stay away from cheap brands...Rimmel is the eyeliner you'll learn to love.

And do something about your hair. Embrace those curls! Straight hair is great and all, but your curls aren't actaully that bad, so learn to love them! And you can have so much more fun with your curls.

As for style, let me tell you that you'll hate the pictures you're taking right now. No one's asking you to be glammed up all the time, but a little effort never hurt anybody.
And avoid those muffin tops you're trying to pull off now. You will lose some weight eventually, but no one wants to see your flab now. However, don't wait for those boobs to appear, they never will. You might as well realise it sooner rather than later.
Don't be afraid to play around with your style a bit. Jeans and tees may be practical, but also try some new stuff. Dresses and skirts look really good, and you have the legs for them.

Also, be more confident: that confidence will definitely show. Wear nice clothes and feel good about yourself. Only when you love yourself can others love you.
And please learn to stick up for youself. Y
ou really don't deserve some of the crap coming your way, causing you hours and hours of tears. These people aren't worth the effort.

And that boy you're thinking about right now...yes him: STOP. He's kind of like Gollum. Although he'll provide a huge amount of entertainment for you, he's also an idiot. You'll realise that when you talk to him. He'll be a good friend in the future, so please don't try for anything more (although, his younger brother gets very good looking and is much nicer).
He really will do entertaining things so its good that nothing really ever happened.

As to our your current bff, stop trying so hard with that friendship. Sometimes, life just pushes two people in completely different directions, and there is nothing really you can do. Accept that you two have grown apart and don't try to force a friendship.

These things happen for a reason: life makes funny turns that we just don't understand sometimes. Sometimes all you need are some great friends and a good time to put everything in perspective. And if all else fails: shopping always makes you happy. So, just live the life you have and don't dwell on the negatives.

Also, don't try too hard to be cool. You might envy them, but these 'cool girls' don't have the best life right now. You eventually get your degree and grow up, but these girls drop out, become teen mums and just stay the same for years to come.
So, don't follow everyone at school. Go for a bit of independence and become your own person.

Life will tear you up at times, but be strong and keep your chin up. Things have a way of turning out for the best. You life will have its ups and downs and the lows will make you appreciate the highs so much more. I know your're confused about the future, but everyone is feeling the same way as you. Seriously, you're not alone.You'll make good and bad choices, but trust yourself. You have a priveleged life, so enjoy it and have fun.

Sherin xx

P.S. Invest in a small group call Facebook. You won't get it now, but it'll be worth your while.

P.P.S. What advice would you give your past self?


Katelynn said...

omg lolololololololololollllllll " He's kind of like Gollum. Although he'll provide a huge amount of entertainment for you, he's also an idiot. "

Luinae said...

I want to do sort of a reverse of what your doing. I'm writing a letter to my future self- 10 years later, and I'll open it.

It's so I won't ever let go of my dreams. My biggest fear is not loving my life- hating what I'm doing.

elle s'ennuie said...

*throws some curl envy your way* :)

I don't even want to think about my 16-year-old self... If I had to give her advice now, a letter wouldn't suffice, it'd have to be an epic-sized book!

Harriet said...

This is such a sweet idea, and I like Luinae's suggestion of one to your future self as well!

Anonymous said...

Lovely letter! I particularly like the p.s. Invest in facebook bit. Great advice!

proudly says, said...

good idea to write something for yourself.
it's good to keep!

Little Red said...

Such a lovely letter! I'm sure I could give my 16 year old self a lot of advice!

This actually reminds me of something my english teacher had us do my senior year of high school. He had us write letters to ourselves and he said he'd mail them back five years later. It's only been a little over three years, but I can't wait to get mine back! I want to read what I wrote!

janettaylor said...

Great idea. Lovely post!


Jennifer Fabulous said...

Amazing post! I love this letter! OH my gosh if we all could really tell our past selves to invest in Facebook....sigh. We'd all be fabulously wealthy.
I would tell my 16-year-old self to have more self-confidence. I really thought I was unattractive, no matter what people told me. Looking back at photos I was so adorable. It's such a shame I didn't realize it at the time...

ana said...

Oh Sherin!!! this is a great idea!!! I love your post... well I will definetely try to advice on the style and the boy look of me a few years ago... I thought fashion was superficial and I wanted to look intelectual but naaahhh... Women must be feminin... That's my advice for me 10 years ago.

S.Elisabeth said...

Aw what a good post!
And the PS thing made me crackkk up.

PPS.... I would tell my 13 year old self to stop being so angry and negative and have fun!

Maria Confer said...

What a wonderful post, Sherin!! I love this idea.

To my sixteen year old self... Don't worry in two years you'll meet the man of your dreams and get married three years after that. Life is way better than you ever expected.

Cafe Fashionista said...

J'adore that picture of you on the pink motorcycle/vespa - you look adorable.

The main advice I would give my past self...don't overanalyze everything! :)

Kait said...

This is such a great entry! I would tell myself, "Enjoy your uncomplicated youth, although in your mind it is extremely complicated. Things only get more intricate from now on."

OceanDreams said...

What wonderful advice, you said it perfectly!! I love the part where you mentioned loving yourself, not being too hard on yourself, and shopping! Duh, of course. ;)

Couture Carrie said...

Hysterical, especially the P.S.!


Icy @ Individual Chic said...

I love this idea! To my 16 year old self I'd say:

Don't worry, you may not be enjoying things now, and your Mum keeps saying these should be the best years of your life (how depressing when they suck), but things will be WONDERFUL!

Eri said...

Very nice idea, I very much enjoyed your post.

Thanks so much for your kind comment,

See you soon.

Sophia said...

Oh dear, I'm 16 right now. I cringe to think of how many not-so-nice things I'll be saying to myself in a few years.

Anonymous said...

GREAT GREAT and wonderful post idea!! You need to tag people with the task of doing this! It is sooo perfect!

♥ Marta ♥ said...

So cute :).... I love it. I would tell myself to always remember who you are and just stick to it. Feeling comfortable in your skin is always key!

the freelancer's fashionblog said...

Haha, I've thought of that before too, what advice I'd give myself... There was this series of ads last winter here in FInland when people called themselves from the future giving themselves the advice to take insurance :D

Sometimes I happen across blogs where teenagers whine about the pain of existing and I might drop them a comment saying that how boring it may ever sound, it does get better by time and it's a relief to become an adult and not having to worry so much about the things one worries bout a lot in that age... But yeah, I'd have to add that little boob note to myself too. I kept on thinking they'd grow until I was about 21, until I realized that this is it ;)

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